November 2013 Newsletter


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November 2013



The WRITE Word for November 2013


Rev. Dr. Y'Lon Dozier, Intentional Interim Specialist Pastor, New Light, MCC


The WRITE Word for this month is: on LOVE AND MARRIAGE-1 Corinthians 13:4-8


When I began at New Light as Pastor in September of this year, being asked to officiate a wedding between two same gender loving people my first week was not something I would have expected. And that was only the beginning. Within that first month, several more requests came through from all over the country. Though I have officiated many weddings, none of them have been with couples I didn't know nor met with during pre-marital counselling prior to my marrying them.


To be fair, many of the couples asking if I would marry them (upon my arrival at New Light) had been together for many years. And because of the new laws legalizing marriage between same gender loving couples in Maryland, many were ready, willing and able to travel for miles to get married in Maryland. In addition many also wanted something more than just a civil ceremony at the court house. So for me, this was a dilemma. A dilemma because it was important I be true to myself and what I believed as a professional Clergy person, and at once, also deeply committed to my belief in the sacredness of marriage between all God's people who loved one another.


The good news for many, it seems, is that there are other authorized members of the clergy in Maryland who perform marriage ceremonies between same gender loving couples upon request. And who also do not require pre-marital counseling first.


Whether or not we agree about what may or may not be required before a marriage ceremony is performed, I would hope most of us would agree getting married is serious business. Which brings me to a passage of scripture which has been used in the performance of many faith based marriage ceremonies:




Paul, however, didn't write the First Letter to the Corinthians about romantic relationships. He was writing to a community struggling to understand how it needed to behave with the end of time so near. Love, he writes, is a gift from God, not just an emotion or human feeling. The Greek word for love in this passage is "agape:" God's unearned love for humans.


What is the reason this passage is used so often at weddings, or as a reminder in church for all of us to act kindly toward each other? At least within the context of a new marriage, these words are perhaps best understood as aspirational, a goal to strive toward. It is our hope that the newly married couple will always be patient and kind toward one another, never rude or uncaring, and that the intense romantic love they feel for each other on their wedding day will not end until "death do us part."


But those of us in long-term relationships know that romantic love changes over time. Few long-term couples remain in the heightened days of overwhelming romantic love, but instead shift to a love characterized by their attachment for each other. Dr. Helen Fisher describes the three stages of love as lust, romantic love and attachment. Attachment, she writes in her book, Why we Love, is characterized by "the feelings of serenity and union with one's beloved."


In the day-today crucible of marriage, it is not easy to be our best selves with each other as we face the pressures of children, finances, aging, and illnesses and so on. It is especially in difficult times that we need to remember these words from First Corinthians: Be patient. Be kind. Put up with what is currently distracting or distancing. Work so that love may endure.


It seems to me that for any long-term relationship to last, whether marriage or friendship, that go-the-distance love...the kind of love that endures, requires a commitment to bring our best selves to each other, work through the struggles when we do not, and forgive ourselves and each other regularly.


This passage in First Corinthians also calls us to bring love into the wider world--to love our neighbors as ourselves. To love in such a way, is not always easy. Nevertheless, Paul is calling the Christian community of Corinth to love each other. Love endures because people commit to each other.


How would it be if next week we chose one quality of love a day and intentionally worked to manifest it in our daily lives and relationships? Or choose to have a day in which we practice patience, a day of kindness, a day without envy, and so on. And how about planning to have a day of hope in which we look at everything with optimism and anticipation of the good that is to come. How would it be?




Our Evening Circle Bible Study gathers at 6:30 pm and begins at 7:00 pm.
Feel free to bring your dinner and/or a snack to share.


Monday, November 4 -- PRAYER GROUP -- 7:30 PM
Anyone wishing to join this group, please see our Lay Delegate Bruce Brooks. The current group consists of: Bruce Brooks, Charlie Kline, Eugene Smith, and James Coates.
Saturday, November 16 -- BOARD OF DIRECTORS MEETING -- 9:30 AM
Our Board of Directors are:
Arlene Leon, Vice Moderator; Cheryl Evans, Treasurer;
Harold Gress, Secretary; Terry Schildt, Buildings Management;
This is an open meeting. All are welcome to attend.
November Events
6:30 PM - Evening Circle
Bible Study
Mon., November 4th
7:30 PM - Prayer Group
Sat., November 9th & 23rd
Food Pantry
Food & Friends
Sat., November 16th
Board of Directors Meeting
Pacesetter Church
2013 Generous in Faith
Visit our Website,
for our calendar of events.
Visit us on Facebook for up-to-date notices:

November Birthdays


Nov. 6 - Bill T.
Nov. 8 - Barry H. / Michelle L.
Nov. 13 - Rich H.
Nov. 19 - John F.
Nov. 25 - Mary Kate M.
Nov. 26 - Bruce B.


Please join us in wishing these fine folks

a Happy Birthday!

If your or another member's birthday or anniversary does not appear please email and help us update our information.


Mummers Parade

Our Annual Deacons' Food Pantry Food Booth Fundraiser, and our team at "28 South" raised $226.00 for our pantry fund this year. Thanks to all who participated.



Meditation Group
The Meditation Group meets the fourth Sunday of each month after services. Please see Harold Gress for more information. Previous meditation experience preferred, but not necessary. Namaste
Sound Team Help
Help is needed on the Sound Team to help run the sound system each Sunday. Weeks are alternated between members and training is provided. Please see Jamie Coates or Paul Breakiron for more information.
Movie Fundraiser
Please be sure to pickup or download a Movie Fundraiser Card and use it each time you see a movie at Leitersburg Cinemas. Our Scholarship Fund earns $1.00 for each movie seen with use of the Movie Fundraiser Card. The last three month period raised $56.00.
(Ignore the expiration date ... they do.)



The second Sunday of each month is our Food Pantry Donation Day. Please drop off your non-perishable food donations into the designated box in the Library.




We will be collecting (kid size only) winter hats and gloves for our local Head Start Center. Please bring in your donated hats and gloves into the church on the first 3 Sundays of November and they will be picked up the week of Thanksgiving and Head Start will distribute to the kids the second and third weeks of December. Kids only sizes.



Don't forget to sign up to volunteer to help with worship each month. We will no longer "hit you up at the door when you come into worship'' to volunteer each Sunday morning. We have a signup "clipboard" which will be located in the kitchen each Sunday for those who wish to help out during service (announcements, readings, holders, ushers, etc.) If positions aren't filled up the worship coordinator for the month will personally ask individuals.




Those interested in membership please see Rev. Dozier. Classes will be scheduled depending on interest. Criteria for Membership -- Any baptized Christian who has completed a membership class may become a Member by participating in the Rite of Membership.



Pick up "The Sunday News" each Sunday before services to keep up to date on weekly events or announcements. Also Financial information is included in the handout.



We are still taking used ink cartridges so we may recycle them at Staples for their Rewards program and continue to pay for our new printer cartridges thru that program.

stewardship check
Be sure to download your "My Time And Talent" Check
This program allows New Light MCC to keep track of our congregation's volunteer service which will greatly help us in the future with applying for grants for our church and ministries. The forms are to be filled out by church members anytime they volunteer in the church or the community. They can be placed in the collection plate each week or they can be turned into the office or any Stewardship member.


Visit our Network MCC Churches on your travels:

Eastern US (DC/DE/MD/VA)

Network Lead: Cathy Alexander ( )


Holy Redeemer MCC * MCC Baltimore * MCC of Northern Virginia * MCC of the Blue Ridge * MCC Rehoboth * MCC Richmond *
MCC Washington * New Life MCC of Hampton Roads *
New Light MCC * Open Door MCC * Shenandoah Valley MCC


Let them know where you're from and give them your support.



Until next month...

Thank you New Light MCCers for the gifts and talents you bring to our church body so that we might take the message of God's love into our community, our country, and our world!


Religion is a compass, not a harness, let your heart explore. You have the freedom to break the chains of religion that might have held you captive so you can find the YOU that God intended you to be!




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